Who am I?
It’s a simple question, but profound. The way you answer
this question shows what you value about yourself and what you despise, the way
you view yourself and the way you believe others view you, the image you see in
the mirror and the one you project to the world. It shows your priorities, your
passions, your very being, in a few simple words or as many as it takes. It
shows your relationships to other people and theirs to you, and it shows how
you view these relationships, if you choose to list them all, by the order and
adjectives attached. A simple question, but multifaceted, and the answer is
never as easy as it seems at first glance.
It’s easy to lose sight of who you are in a crazy busy world
like this. It’s easy to trim an edge here and smooth a rough spot there to fit
into a mold of who you think you should be, or who someone else thinks you
should be. It’s easy to adapt, become what you need to be or what others need
you to be in a given situation. It’s easy to fill your schedule and your mind
and your heart with these things, things that distract you from that core you,
the one that surfaces when you start to ask yourself this question. And it’s
necessary sometimes, to put aside something you love for another’s benefit, to
sacrifice time you’d rather spend elsewhere in order to accomplish something
worthwhile. It’s necessary to make a living even if you despise your job, to
interact with coworkers or fellow students or even family that you’d rather
avoid but are obligated to spend time with. It’s necessary to put yourself on
hold sometimes.
But being on hold is never supposed to last long. And if you
leave yourself on hold, if you continue to deny certain parts of yourself, you may
lose sight of them entirely. You find yourself one day struggling to catch your
breath, wondering where all of your time is going, desperate to renew yourself
but unsure of how to go about it – because the self you want to renew is
withering away, the fire flickering out.
And that would be a shame. The world needs you, to fulfill
all that you were sent here to do. If you replace that with the generic and the
necessary entirely, there is a void that no one else can quite fill.
This is something I’m struggling with lately. I’ve been
sticking to the necessary, the urgent, the parts of my life that demand so much
of me that I leave who I am on hold. It’s necessary, of course – I can hardly
make what I need to do for a living harmonize with what I need to do for myself
– but I’ve found it’s not enough. I’ve been on hold too long. I’ve lost sight
of bits and pieces of myself. And it hurts, to realize this, to share it, to
see how it’s affected those around me. I need to find it again, to take the
time and rediscover who God made me to be.
So how would I answer this question, who am I? How does this help me stop leaving myself on hold? It’s
simple, really. I’ll even give you a list.
I am a writer – so
I need to write, to take the time and let my words flow from my mind to my
fingers to my screen or paper. I need to allow thoughts to become ideas and
ideas to become characters, plots, worlds of their own.
I am a dancer – so
I need to take the time to dance, even when my energy is drained, even when I
have so little to offer, even when my movements are clumsy and my feet stumble.
I need to allow my worship to flood my body and move my hands and feet, allow
myself to experience it with all of me physically, mentally, emotionally.
I am a perpetual
student – so I need to let myself learn, to set aside time and resources
and materials. I need to inundate myself with the knowledge I thirst for, the
wonders of God and His works and the minds He bestowed upon mankind which allow
them to discover so much. I need to allow my curiosity to be insatiable and
follow it where it leads.
I am a child – of God,
and of two amazing parents, which makes me a blood sister to three wonderful
siblings and spiritual sister to countless more. So I need to allow myself to
be a child, to experience the wonder of darkness transforming to light or new
life springing forth out of death. I need to let the weight of the world slip
from my shoulders and rest on the ground, then allow those wiser and stronger
than me to share the load and teach me how to bear my part. Teachable,
excitable, joyful, hopeful – a child once again.
And when I do, I’ll find my days will be more fulfilled. My
self will be renewed. And my breath will come easier and easier until I can breathe
deeply once again.
What about you? What is your answer to the question, who am I? What are the things that keep
you refreshed and renewed, able to deal with the mundane in a way that makes it
extraordinary? How do you breathe?